There are times in our lives when we are placed in difficult positions. Positions that, despite our best efforts, cannot be avoided, and you must simply deal with it in the best way you can. But that doesn’t take away the frustration of being in that situation, or other raw emotions that could spring up from such an occurrence Depending on the situation we can feel helpless, angry… sometimes guilty, even though we did the best we could. I think it’s important to face those feelings, and see their root cause, because although we should accept our feelings, we shouldn’t dwell on these negative ones for long.
Our thoughts can be very powerful things, especially when they come attached with emotions. As naturally as this may occur, I believe that part of the benefits in being a human being is that we can use our will to direct our thoughts to varying levels. You’ve heard that positive thinking can be beneficial, and in fact, I believe there are a number of studies out there that would suggest that, and the corollary as well – that negative thoughts could be harmful. Negative thoughts, if left un-checked can cloud our judgement, and leave us at a loss. Depression works like this, although on a more severe and chemical level – and those who suffer from in find it nearly impossible to cease dwelling on their misfortunes. I’ve heard, and have had friends paralysed so much, such that they could not even muster the strength to leave their beds.
I am as susceptible to this as anyone else and I personally find it to be a struggle at times. What I’ve learned though, and what works for me is analysis of the current situation. How did I get here? Where did I participate in making this happen? If I did participate, this is the time to reflect on it briefly, depending on the gravity of the situation. But once I’ve understood what I did, or did not do, it’s time for me to move on to find a solution. I need to change my mental gears and do some positive, creative thinking. It’s not always easy to detach oneself from the situation at hand, but it’s a good idea to stop feeling sorry for oneself, when it no longer serves the purpose of education. There is, after all, a future beyond this present. There is little point in dwelling on the past.